[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":56},["ShallowReactive",2],{"stoicism-article-11/28":3},{"path":4,"stem":5,"title":6,"description":7,"meta":8,"body":23},"/stoicism/11/28","stoicism/11/28","It’s Not On Them, It’s On You","Meditation for November 28, 2021",{"quotes":9,"last_updated_at":15,"tags":16,"categories":19,"changeFreq":21,"backgroundImage":22},[10],{"quote":11},{"content":12,"author":13,"source":14},"If someone is slipping up, kindly correct them and point out what they missed. But if you can’t, blame yourself—or no one.","Marcus Aurelius","Meditations, 10.4","2021-11-28T10:10:00",[17,18],"stoicism","acceptance",[20,17],"meditation","never","/IMG_5660.jpg",{"type":24,"value":25,"toc":50},"minimark",[26,39,42,47],[27,28,29,30,34,35,38],"p",{},"The thought of pointing out the ",[31,32,33],"em",{},"flaws"," of someone else feels sanctimonious and ",[31,36,37],{},"un-Minnesotan",". Having thought on this\nfor some time, I do believe it is important to give constructive criticism to a friend or family member you find\nstruggling.",[27,40,41],{},"What is important to keep in mind is that you should not provide advice if you also struggle with the same faults. Which\nleads me to believe the best way to help someone is to ask them to help you as well. If your friend is having an issue\nwith always being late, ask them to help you avoid being late. If you have a family member who struggles with budgeting\ntheir money, ask them to help you budget your money.",[43,44,46],"h3",{"id":45},"conclusion","Conclusion",[27,48,49],{},"If we want to improve ourselves, we need to be open to constructive criticism. Truly wanting others to improve, we need\nto be willing to provide loving and sensitive criticism. If we have any struggles with that, then we need to learn to\nnot be sensitive about the behavior in the first place.",{"title":51,"searchDepth":52,"depth":52,"links":53},"",2,[54],{"id":45,"depth":55,"text":46},3,1793716908457]